Many women can feel emotional at the time of ending a pregnancy, but that doesn’t mean they feel bad about their decision. Those who choose an early abortion procedure want to take care of it before the pregnancy advances.
Coping with an unplanned pregnancy can be very emotional.
Choosing to terminate a pregnancy can be a very difficult decision for women and couples, for a variety of reasons.
- Your partner isn’t as supportive as you thought he would be.
- Terminating the pregnancy is more upsetting than you’d expected.
- The fact that you have to have an abortion procedure makes you angry because you never expected it to happen.
- You discover you don’t really wish to be pregnant, although you initially thought you did.
- Your feelings are different to those of your partner, which makes you think you don’t know each other as well as you thought you did.
- You find it difficult to make a decision and keep going round in circles
- You feel as if you can’t tell anyone that you need to have an abortion procedure
- You previously had a bad experience when having an abortion procedure, and are afraid it will happen again.
- You believed you would know what to do if you fell pregnant, but instead you feel confused.
- You have the resources to have a baby, but don’t think you want to.
- You realise you want to be pregnant, but this is not the right time.
- You are against the idea of abortion, but you don’t want to have a baby.
It’s natural to feel emotional and have conflicting feelings when you are pregnant. Your hormones are changing fast, so even if you know you are doing the right thing your emotions may be very up and down.
Situations like these can sometimes help to make things appear clearer. You might get to know things about or partner you weren’t aware of before, or you might realise you need to make changes in your life if you want to get pregnant in future.
Emotions and decisions are often in conflict when it comes to abortion. It’s normal to feel uneasy about any decisions you make, and you may experience feelings of regret, however rather than dwell on this the experience can be a learning curve, and you might even be able to advise others in similar circumstances in the future. When you’re deciding whether or not to have an abortion procedure, it can be a time to examine how you make difficult decisions generally.
Views on abortion are still divided, and the fact that terminations are provided in isolated abortion clinics contributes to women feeling ashamed of having the procedure, preventing them from talking about it. However abortion procedures are nothing out of the ordinary. Many women have an abortion at least once. Contraception is not 100% effective, and it’s not unusual for people to get carried away during sex. Everyone makes mistakes, and many people find themselves in situations that are less than ideal.
Terminations are usually provided in abortion clinics that are separate from other medical centres. This can make women feel isolated, and partners are often not present for the duration of the visit. The abortion clinics can become the subject of protesters. Some abortion clinics require you to have abortion counselling, even if you don’t feel it’s necessary. You may deal with different people for each part of your visit, one person will handle abortion counselling, another will run tests, and another person helps during the abortion procedure. It’s not uncommon for waiting and recovery rooms to lack privacy. No other medical service is dealt with in such an impersonal way.
This website and the doctors behind it are attempting to change this. We are trying to make early abortion procedures available in mainstream medical settings, not just at private abortion clinics, so that you may see a doctor in a single examination room. We believe you should be able to bring someone with you for support, and we don’t believe you need abortion counselling unless you want to talk to us. We encourage individually scheduled visits so your waiting time is lessened, and is completely private.
The debate on abortion has been volatile, and divides opinion. The doctors behind this website believe the way abortion is provided, and how it is talked about is very important. Early abortion procedures need to be made available in mainstream medical centres, and honest, open dialogue with each other needs to be encouraged. It may seem there are two opinions when it comes to abortion, those who are for it and those who are against it, with a straight line dividing the two. In fact it’s a lot more complicated than that, people may change the way they feel about it from one day to the next, or feel many different ways at once. It’s important to work together to make complicated situations a time to develop and grow.
There are some typical feelings and emotions experienced by patients below. Learning about women’s experiences can make you realise you’re not alone. Responses from our medical director have also been included.